It’s been an exciting couple of days! Many of you know that my husband and I have been matched to adopt our baby girl’s birth parents for 9 months. Well, February 19th was the day! Talia Paige Silverman was born on 2/19 at 10:19am weighing 5 pounds, 6 ounces and measuring 16 inches long.
We are so grateful to have been there for her birth! Our Tallie was supposed to be born on Monday, Febrary 24th after 6pm through induction. However, she didn’t get the memo and decided that earlier was better. Our birth mom went in for her check up last Tuesday and was already dialated to 3 centimeters– on Wednesday she was told her fluid was down to a 6 and our daughter would be here very soon. Thursday was the day! We flew out as soon as we heard that the induction was going to be moved up. After delays in Atlanta, due to weather, we arrived in Oklahoma at 2am, went to our hotel, took a 55 minute nap, and were off to the hospital for the 6am induction. Funny, I think our Talia was thinking “induction insmuction”– she was coming anyway. Our birth mom was already at 4-5 centimeters!
With me, my husband, our birth mom and our birth father all in the delivery room, we felt surrounded by love and gratitude. What a blessing. Our birthmom only needed to push 1 1/2 times before Tallie made her way into the world. After getting cleaned off, weighed and measured, and my husband cut the cord, she was handed to me for our first encounter. She was beautiful and so small! I had the honor of being able to introduce Talia to our birthmom, exactly as we all had planned it together, and it was one of the most beautiful and precious moments of my life. We all felt like family before the birth and we became family after.
After spending a few days in the hospital with our little girl, we’re now settled into an apartment for a few days as the paperwork goes from state to state for approval. It’s been an amazing few days. We got together with our birth family for sushi the other night and I’ll be making a turkey dinner for everyone, including some extended family, tomorrow night. Perhaps you might be surprised by that– but there has been nothing typical about this adoption. It’s been a pleasure in everyway.
Our birthmom courageously went to court this morning and did the most loving thing for Talia–legal custody is now ours. She is the bravest, most thoughtful person we know. It’s been such an honor to have gone on this journey with her. Through countless text messages, phone calls, emails, and precious conversations, she has been so thoughtful to include me in every part of the pregnancy. I’ll discuss this more in future posts– but know this, adoption can be easy, and lovely, and wonderful in every way if you choose to make it that way, follow the signs, and open your heart.
I’m excited to share our unusual and spectacular experience with all of you. I’m even coaching some people through part of the process. In addition, our social worker, our birth mom, and myself are planning to run a teleconference so people can hear about our outstanding experience and how it can be. So contact us if you’re interested so we can send you some information when we plan it.
Please feel free to ask questions. There are so many unfortunate myths about adoption itself, open adoption in particular, and US adoption to boot. And while we acknowledge that not everyone has the same experience as we did– my point is, that it’s possible to have it this way– adoption doesn’t have to be a series of mishaps, broken hearts, and years on end of waiting. We are living the reality– and it’s wonderful. We’re proud of our journey and hope it will inspire others out there who are thinking about adoption…and perhaps even open adoption like ours.
The Proud Mommy,